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Benefits of spending quality time with partner before marriage

“It offers more than just romantic moments. It’s a crucial phase for building a foundation based on mutual understanding and shared experiences,” says Neha Cadabam, senior psychologist and executive director at Cadabams Hospitals and Mindtalk, talking about partners getting to spend quality time before marriage.

She also said, “Studies have shown that couples who invest in quality time pre-marriage report higher levels of relationship satisfaction and are less prone to divorce. This is attributed to the opportunity to delve deeper into each other’s values, communication styles, and conflict resolution approaches.”

Quality time allows couples to gauge compatibility on multiple levels. (Source: Freepik)

Neuroscience research suggests that shared experiences trigger the release of oxytocin, the ‘bonding hormone,’ fostering emotional intimacy and trust. This strengthens the emotional connection and lays the groundwork for a lasting relationship.

Quality time also allows couples to gauge compatibility, observe interactions in different situations, resolve disagreements, and align values and goals, which are crucial for making informed decisions about their future.

Making the time you spend with your partner truly meaningful

To ensure that couple time is truly meaningful, Cadabam suggests considering these evidence-based strategies:

Be present: Research indicates that mindful presence during shared activities strengthens emotional connection and fosters a sense of intimacy. Putting away distractions like phones and engaging fully in the moment is key.

Communication is key: Open and honest communication builds trust and understanding. Studies have shown that couples who communicate effectively are more likely to navigate challenges and maintain a satisfying relationship.

Try new things together: Novel experiences activate the brain’s reward system, releasing dopamine and enhancing feelings of excitement and pleasure. Sharing these experiences can strengthen the bond between partners.

Show affection: Physical touch, such as hugging and cuddling, triggers the release of oxytocin, promoting bonding and reducing stress. Research has shown that couples who engage in physical affection report higher relationship satisfaction.

Make time for fun: Laughter and shared joy are essential for emotional well-being and relationship satisfaction. Studies have linked humor to increased relationship resilience and better conflict resolution.

Common challenges and how to overcome them

“Even the strongest couples can face challenges when spending extended periods together,” Cadabam said. Recognising and addressing these challenges is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship.

Lack of personal space: Everyone needs time for individual interests and activities. Respecting each other’s need for autonomy is essential for preventing feelings of suffocation or resentment.

Communication breakdowns: Stressful situations can exacerbate communication issues. Practice active listening and express your needs clearly and respectfully to avoid misunderstandings and conflicts.

Boredom: Falling into a routine is natural.  Combat boredom by intentionally planning new activities, exploring shared hobbies, or simply trying something different together.

Resentment: If one partner feels burdened or undervalued, resentment can fester. Open communication about expectations, responsibilities, and needs can prevent resentment from building up.