Q. Recently my three children, all in their twenties, told me they thought I wasn’t a good mother. I feel devastated by this. Not just because it seems to be a great failure on my part, but also because as grown-ups they think it is OK to be so hurtful to me. And I am incredibly hurt; I cannot stop thinking about it.
They may have a point. My eldest, who has high-functioning autism, had a terrible breakdown and my daughter was diagnosed with anorexia as a teenager. I worked full-time in a job that I didn’t enjoy and carried huge resentment at the lack of contribution to household chores from my husband, who can do no wrong in their eyes. I have always
